Is Bullying Increasing Or Are We Just Hearing More About It?

Here is a great question we received on the recent post “Every 7 Minutes A Child is Bullied.” I think this question is so important and so complex, I decided that it should be answered in another post.

“Lorna, what I haven’t seen anywhere – and truly don’t have a clue about – is whether there is an escalation of bullying in the schools or if it’s just being reported more because we’re more aware of it … its consequences. Do you happen to know? And if so, what do they attribute it to?” – Sharon

Hi Sharon,

Great question! In fact, it’s one of THE hot questions in bullying right now, with no simple answer. The short answer is BOTH – (1) there is a lot of school bullying and (2) the Internet makes it much easier to hear about bullying all over the world (Google Casey the Bully Punisher from Australia, from last summer).

That’s not all. The level of school bullying by kids is directly related to the increasing level of everyday bullying in society, primarily by adults – workplace bullying (including schools), reality show bullying, road rage, adult cyberbullying. Even when adults tell kids “No bullying”, adult bullying all around our kids teaches and gives permission to bully. Adult actions speak much louder than our words. Even before it becomes bullying, the level of societal rudeness has skyrocketed. Set on that backdrop, it’s no surprise to see those adult behaviors make their way into schools.

The definition of bullying has also changed over the years, as our understanding of the methods of and tools for bullying has evolved. As a result, even the same school system has a hard time comparing bullying statistics over 3 or 5 years. The state of Florida, one of the most forward-thinking of US states for children’s bullying prevention, enacted legislation in 2008 to standardize both the definition of bullying, by students on and off school property, including cyberbullying, and the requirements for and means of reporting. (Google Jeffrey Johnston Stand Up For All Students Act). They were astounded to see that, within this supposedly standardized system with a huge focus on bullying prevention, one school district reported 0 bullying incidents while another reported 5,000!

The Internet is the source of both problems and huge opportunities. Cyberbullying is undoubtedly the fastest-growing “product line” in the bullying “business”.  We’ve written about it on our blog and it will continue to be an open and frequent discussion thread. And while there is much negative, the Internet can also be a fantastic and protective Early Warning System, if we work to use it better. If we know of even one child who is contemplating suicide, how can we stand by and not help?

The openness of our kids to airing their deepest thoughts, rawest emotions, and all their social plans on blogs and messaging networks can help us identify vulnerable kids in serious trouble – planned targets of beatings, kids contemplating suicide, kids being shunned by groups of frenemies. Identifying these kids early can give us the opportunity to throw a support lifeline and put a stop to the underlying behavior that’s causing or contributing to their distress.

Adults must lead the change. We must lead by example, instead of “Do as I say, not as I do.” Adults must walk the walk and talk the talk of bullying prevention every day, and insist that kids do the same. When kids know that adults are serious about No bullying every day, they will test the limits less, internalize those standards and behavior limits, and step in to protect one another, without waiting for adults to intervene. That’s when we’ll know we’re being successful.

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  1. Interesting. It does appear to be getting worse. Maybe because there’s more avenues in which to bully? With the rise of the internet, bullying has gone to a whole new level. Kids are being bullied in their own bedrooms behind the computer screen. So sad. I have to say, raising kids now is tough but with all the available avenues for communication, it has made parents’ jobs much harder.

  2. I so dislike bullying. My grand-daughter was bullied for many years in school and she had to have therapy to undo the self-esteem issues from that. There really is not that much done about it after all the protests made. There is a lot of humming and awing… Thanks for a great article. x0x

  3. Adults must lead the change…I so agree. This is an important topic…so many families have been touched by the negative effects of bullying.

  4. What a great article on bullying. Thanks for posting this.

  5. I agree, the change has to start with adults. Kids learn their behaviours from the adults around them and unless society as a whole stops accepting bullying in any shape or form, it’s only going to affect more and more children and their families.

  6. Lorna, you’ve now confirmed that the bullying behavior is due at least in part to more aggressive adult behavior. As I think about it, I wonder to what extent that is the result of the “depersonalization” of our society. On the one hand, we think we’re more interconnected because of technology, but the truth is that it also has an isolating, distancing side. Parents text their kids in the next room. The family structure has disintegrated further, as everyone is connected at all times to something electronic. No one sits at the table for meals, where social mores are transferred through close contact. Parents are under greater pressure at work, then want to compensate for their mental and physical absence by being their kids’ best friends. I know this is a gross generalization … but I can see where there could be greater unbridled anger. Thanks for the thought-provoking article!

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